If Loving Them Feels Impossible — Maybe God Is Doing Something in You ✝️🥰

Love isn’t always easy — sometimes it becomes the classroom where God teaches us grace.


Dear loving Sister… ❤️


Can we be honest today?

Sometimes loving certain people is hard.

Not because we are bad…

Not because we don’t care…

But because the relationship has:

💔 Hurt
💔 Disappointed
💔 Exhausted
💔 Confused us

And sometimes, deep inside, we whisper:

 “God… why is loving them so difficult? Why do I have to be the one who apologizes, forgives, understands, and tries?”

If that’s you today… 
you are not weak.
You are not failing.
You are not the problem.
You are simply in a season where God is refining your love. ❤️‍🔥

1. Love Was Never Supposed to Be Just a Feeling

The world teaches love like this:

👉 If it feels good — stay.
👉 If it hurts — walk away.

But Jesus teaches differently:

“Love one another as I have loved you.”

— John 15:12

His love wasn’t based on convenience.

It wasn’t based on conditions.

It wasn’t based on how He was treated.

His love was a decision.
A commitment.
A reflection of His Father — not people’s behavior.

So if loving someone feels difficult… maybe love is shifting from an emotion to a calling.

2. Sometimes God Uses Difficult People to Grow the Fruit of the Spirit

Some people in our lives feel like:

🔸 A test
🔸 A mirror
🔸 A lesson

Not because God wants to hurt us — but because He wants to grow us.

Galatians 5:22-23 says:

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

These fruits don’t grow in comfort — they grow in:

🌱 conflict
🌱 misunderstanding
🌱 waiting
🌱 forgiveness
🌱 humility

So maybe the hard-to-love person isn’t your burden… maybe they are the soil where God is cultivating your spiritual maturity. 🌿✨

3. Loving Them Doesn’t Mean You Ignore Pain

This part is important:

God never asked you to tolerate abuse, manipulation, disrespect, or emotional damage.

Love has boundaries.
Love can say “no.”
Love can step back.
Love can heal in wisdom.

But even with distance…
even with silence…
even with boundaries…

your heart can still remain tender. 💕

Because love is not weakness — love is evidence that Jesus lives in you. (1 John 4:12)


4. Love Changes You First — Then Others

We often pray:

“Lord, change them.”

But sometimes God is whispering:

“Daughter, let Me change you first.”

Not so you become silent…
Not so you become small…
Not so you tolerate injustice…

But so your heart reflects HIM, not hurt.

Sometimes the miracle isn’t:

✨ Them becoming loving but
✨ You learning to love with freedom and grace

Because love doesn’t always fix people —
but it always transforms the one who gives it.

PERSONAL REFLECTION:

There was a season I struggled to love someone close to me.

Every conversation felt like walking on glass.

Every interaction triggered old hurt.

Every attempt to love felt one-sided.

I asked God, “Why me? Why should I be the one to keep trying?”

And very gently… in prayer… I felt Him whisper:

“Because you know Me.
Because you have My Spirit.
Because I am doing something in you.”

I cried — not because it hurt — but because it made sense.

Love wasn’t just something I was giving…
it was something God was teaching me.

5. You Don’t Have to Love Alone

You don’t have to force love from an empty heart.

You don’t have to pretend.

You don’t have to be strong by yourself.

Jesus doesn’t just command love, He supplies it.

When your love runs out… His begins. 💛

When patience ends… His continues.

When forgiveness feels impossible… He whispers:

“Let Me love them through you.”


Bible Verse:

“We love because He first loved us.”

— 1 John 4:19

Not because they deserve it.

Not because we feel like it.

But because He loved us when we were hard to love too. 💗

A Short Prayer for you:

Dear Jesus,

Help me love with Your heart, not mine
.
Heal the places that hurt.

Soften the places that became hard.

Teach me to love gently, wisely, and faithfully.

And when love feels impossible — love through me.

Amen.


Sis… if this tugged your heart, it’s because love is your calling — not your burden.

You’re not failing.
You’re growing.
And God is proud of you.

💬 Comment “Lord, teach me to love”
and share this with someone who needs this encouragement today. 💛



With love,
Anisha.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Jehovah Rapha: The Lord Who Heals ✨

Hey beautiful women of God 💃🌺  Yes, YOU!  The one reading this right now! 🤗💌 I want to remind you today of something so powerful, so life-changing, that your heart will dance with hope 💖💃 —  Our God is Jehovah Rapha – The Lord Who Heals! 🙌🔥  💬 He’s not just the God who heals bodies… He heals hearts, minds, emotions, broken dreams, and wounded souls. 💕🕊 📖 Let’s Dive Into the Bible Story Together 💖 One day, Jesus was teaching in a synagogue 🕍. In the crowd was a woman who had been bent over for 18 long years 😔💔.  She couldn’t straighten herself up. She had learned to live looking down at the ground, probably ignored, pitied, or even mocked by people. 💥 But when Jesus saw her 👀💖, His heart overflowed with compassion. He called her forward, placed His loving hands upon her, and said: “Woman, you are set free from your infirmity.” 🙌💖 ✨ Instantly, she stood up straight! For the first time in 18 years, she could look up at the sky, into the faces o...
Read more

They Left Me Out — But God Held Me Close 💔🙏

She stopped calling me after her wedding. My own relatives. My own blood. Slowly, they began to distance themselves. No fights. No reasons. Just silence. Sometimes I wonder... Was I only useful to them at one time? When they needed my help, I was important. Now that they no longer need me — I’ve become invisible. My heart whispers: "Am I not worthy anymore? Am I that easy to forget?" 😞 The truth is, I feel abandoned… Used once. Then pushed aside like I don’t matter anymore. But here’s what brings me comfort: God never used me — He always loved me. 💖 When people walk away, God draws closer. When others delete your number, God engraves your name on His hand ✋ He sees every ache, every tear, every lonely moment. One day, He will restore your honor in front of the same people who treated you as “nothing.” But until that day comes — Keep walking with Him. You are not forgotten. You are deeply loved. 🌷 📖 Bible Verse: “Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receiv...
Read more

They Blame Me for Everything — Even What I Didn’t Do 😞🙏

The fan stopped working? It must be me. The child misbehaved? I must not have taught him well. A misunderstanding between two family members? Somehow, it’s always me who gets blamed. Even when I stay quiet, even when I walk carefully — It feels like I’m always the easiest target. 🎯 Sometimes I wonder: “Am I really that wrong? Or are they just used to blaming me?” No matter what I do — love, help, adjust — it’s never seen. Only my “mistakes” are remembered. I cry silently after everyone sleeps. I smile during the day, but deep down I carry so many bruises — not on my body, but on my heart 💔 But then I remember… God sees the truth. Always. When people twist words, when they target you for no reason God knows your heart. And He will defend you. The world may judge by what they hear. But God knows the real story. And one day, He will lift your head high in front of those who shamed you. 🙌 📖 Bible Verse:  “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” —Exodus 14:14 ✨ A Sh...
Read more