When a Daughter is Taught to Adjust, But Not a Son

From a young age, many girls are told to adjust.

“She’s a girl, she should be understanding.”

“Let her compromise, she has to live in her in-laws' house one day.”

“Girls should be flexible. That’s how families stay united.”

But rarely do we hear,

“Teach your son to be kind.”

“Teach him to help in the kitchen.”

“Teach him to respect boundaries, choices, and sacrifices.”

This unequal upbringing builds a heavy burden on women. A daughter learns to suppress her dreams, her emotions, and even her pain—just to be called a "good girl." Meanwhile, sons often grow up with a sense of entitlement, never learning the weight of empathy or responsibility in relationships.

This mindset affects marriages, homes, and future generations.

When a woman speaks up, she’s called “too much.”

When a man walks away, he’s excused with “boys will be boys.”

It’s time we stop this cycle.

Raise sons who adjust too.

Raise sons who don’t expect a wife to act like a mother.

Raise sons who share, care, and contribute.

Equality doesn’t begin in society—it begins at home.

Mary and Martha (Luke 10:38–42)

When Jesus visited the home of Martha and Mary, Martha was busy preparing everything for Him, while Mary sat at His feet, listening to His teaching.

Martha complained to Jesus, asking Him to tell Mary to help. But Jesus gently corrected her, saying Mary had chosen the better part.

In a culture where women were expected to serve, Jesus honoured Mary’s choice to learn—to grow—to sit and receive, not just serve.

Jesus broke the cultural expectation and valued women equally in His Kingdom.

Let this remind us that Jesus never asked women to carry more than they should.

📜 Bible Verse:

"There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus."

— Galatians 3:28

A Short Prayer for You:

Dear Father,

Help us raise both daughters and sons with equal love and equal expectations.

Teach us to value empathy over ego, and kindness over pride.

May we break generational chains of bias and raise children who reflect Your heart.

In Jesus' name, 

Amen.

Dear Sister,

If you’re raising a daughter, teach her to love herself enough to say “no.”

If you’re raising a son, teach him to love others enough to say “yes.”

The world needs both—women who stand strong, and men who bend in humility.

Let’s stop glorifying daughters who suffer silently. Let’s start celebrating sons who live gently.

Together, let’s build homes that reflect the heart of Jesus—not culture.

With love,

Anisha.